{"id":1851,"date":"2008-02-20T19:55:58","date_gmt":"2008-02-20T19:55:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/?p=1851"},"modified":"2008-02-20T19:55:58","modified_gmt":"2008-02-20T19:55:58","slug":"true_love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/?p=1851","title":{"rendered":"True Love"},"content":{"rendered":"
Did anyone else read the article in this
\nmonth’s Atlantic advocating that single women should quit waiting around for the
\nperfect guy to show up and settle for someone<\/a> who makes a passable husband and
\nfather. The author, a single mother, warns readers that the man of their dreams
\ndoesn’t exist and that it’s preferable to settle on someone rather than become a
\nspinster. But she also urges women not to compromise themselves too much when
\nsettling, bemoaning the fates of friends of hers who finally settled for men who
\nwere feckless, immature, or alcoholic. Her ultimate thesis–which she gets to in
\na roundabout manner–is that women should settle while they’re young and before
\ntheir choices are restricted to “damaged goods”.<\/span><\/div>\n
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Romantic love is a fleeting thing and
\nrelationships must eventually sustain themselves on something less incandescent
\nthan passion or excitement. I get that. And I might be making assumptions based on
\nmy own beliefs and social circle, but I thought marriage had faded as the star by which all women steered their ships. Or am I totally clueless? Is marriage and kids still the idealized pinnacle of adult life? But I’m not sure that’s what the article was saying. The impression of marriage I got from the article was of a bland but necessary business arrangement. It left me feeling sad.
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Did anyone else read the article in this month’s Atlantic advocating that single women should quit waiting around for the perfect guy to show up and settle for someone who makes a passable husband and father. The author, a single mother, warns readers that the man of their dreams doesn’t exist and that it’s preferable […]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"sfsi_plus_gutenberg_text_before_share":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_show_text_before_share":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_icon_type":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_icon_alignemt":"","sfsi_plus_gutenburg_max_per_row":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1851","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","category-1-id","post-seq-1","post-parity-odd","meta-position-corners","fix"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p9Iwau-tR","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1851","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1851"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1851\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1851"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1851"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1851"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}