{"id":367,"date":"2004-02-04T19:09:46","date_gmt":"2004-02-04T19:09:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/?p=367"},"modified":"2004-02-04T19:09:46","modified_gmt":"2004-02-04T19:09:46","slug":"quirky_and_alon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/?p=367","title":{"rendered":"Quirky And Alone On The 19th Floor"},"content":{"rendered":"

I was listening to NPR a little while ago when I heard the term ‘quirkyalone’ for the first time. Writer Sasha Cagen defines someone who is a quirkyalone<\/a>:
\nFor the quirkyalone, there is no patience for dating just for the sake of not being alone. On a fine but by no means transcendent date we dream of going home to watch television. We would prefer to be alone with our own thoughts than with a less than perfect fit. We are almost constitutionally incapable of casual relationships.<\/strong>
\nCagen seems to use the term to describe a certain subgroup of women, but I see a bit of me in that definition. I do derive a kind of melancholy satisfaction from being alone. I like the little rituals of my solitary life and the simplicity of not having to worry about anyone but myself. My last girlfriend accused me of being a selfish person, and in a way, she’s probably right. I live in my head so much of the time and it’s not easy for me to let anyone else in to my zone of privacy.
\nThat isn’t to say I don’t keep exploring romantic possibilities. I obsessively check Match.com<\/a> every day to see how many people have looked at my profile (668 and counting). But a deeper part of me knows that it will take a minor miracle for me to meet someone as weird as me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I was listening to NPR a little while ago when I heard the term ‘quirkyalone’ for the first time. Writer Sasha Cagen defines someone who is a quirkyalone: For the quirkyalone, there is no patience for dating just for the sake of not being alone. On a fine but by no means transcendent date we […]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"sfsi_plus_gutenberg_text_before_share":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_show_text_before_share":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_icon_type":"","sfsi_plus_gutenberg_icon_alignemt":"","sfsi_plus_gutenburg_max_per_row":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-367","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","category-1-id","post-seq-1","post-parity-odd","meta-position-corners","fix"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p9Iwau-5V","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/367","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=367"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/367\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=367"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=367"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/the19thfloor.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=367"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}